It is so unfortunate that as Muslims we’ve created a culture of shaming, criticism, bashing, and judgmentalism. We’ve become so consumed looking at the faults of others completely dismissing our own faults. We have distorted the beautiful advice of Umar RAA when he said, “Judge yourselves before you are judged, evaluate yourselves before you are evaluated and be ready for the greatest investigation (the Day of Judgement)” and instead we look for the faults of others and judge them. We judge each other although we know Allah swt is the only One who can judge us. Social media has become our platform to shame and criticize from the comfort of our cell phones. We use harsh words towards one another disregarding our brothers/sisters feelings. Allah swt told us that He sent our beloved Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) as a guide for us and that we should follow his example. “If you really love Allah, then follow me. Allah will love you and forgive your sins…” [3:31] How have we forgotten his beautiful teachings?
Once the Prophet (ﷺ) looked at the Ka’bah and said, “How great are you and how great is your sanctity! Yet, the believer has greater sanctity to Allah than you. Verily, Allah sanctified you once and sanctified the believer thrice in his life, his wealth, and to not assume evil about him.”
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“Do you know what is backbiting?” The Companions said: “Allah and His Messenger know better.” Thereupon he said, “Backbiting is talking about your (Muslim) brother in a manner which he dislikes.” It was said to him: “What if my (Muslim) brother is as I say.” He said, “If he is actually as you say, then that is backbiting; but if that is not in him, that is slandering.”
“A Muslim is the one who does not harm Muslims with his tongue or his hands….”
“Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness, and He grants reward for it that He does not grant for harshness.”
“None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”
“O community of people, who believed by their tongue, and belief did not enter their hearts, do not back-bite Muslims, and do not search for their faults, for if anyone searches for their faults, Allah will search for his fault, and if Allah searches for the fault of anyone, He disgraces him in his house.”
“Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the worst of false tales; and do not look for the others’ faults and do not spy, and do not be jealous of one another, and do not desert (cut your relation with) one another, and do not hate one another; and O Allah’s worshipers! Be brothers (as Allah has ordered you!”)
“Whosoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him say good or remain silent.”
“The believer does not defame, abuse, disparage, nor vilify.”
“The believer does not accuse, curse others, disobey Allah, nor bad-mouth others.”
“The curse of a Muslim is a sign of disobedience.”
“The people whom I hate the most and who are the farthest from me on the Day of Judgment are those who talk uselessly, and those who put down others, and those who shows off when they talk.”
“A person utters a word thoughtlessly (i.e., without thinking about whether it is good or evil) and as a result, will plummet into the fire of Hell deeper than the distance between the east and the west.”
“From the perfection of a person’s Islam is to leave alone that which does not concern him.”
Usamah bin Zaid said “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) sent us with a detachment to Al Huruqat. They learnt about us and fled away. But we found a man, when we attacked him he uttered “There is no god but Allah, still we struck him till we killed him.” When I mentioned it to the Prophet (ﷺ) he said “Who will save you from “There is no god but Allah” on the Day of Judgment? I said “Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), he uttered it for the fear of the weapon.” He said “Did you tear his heart so that you learnt whether he actually uttered it for this or not. Who will support you against “There is no god but Allah”? He kept on repeating this till I wished I would have embraced Islam on that day.
Al-Hasan ibn Abi al-Hasan (the freed slave of Zaid ibn Thabit) said:
“It used to be said, he who shame his either for a sin from which he repented, will not die until Allah swt tests him with it.”
Let’s follow the example of our beloved Prophet (ﷺ) not only in the way we pray and dress but also in the way we interact with one another. May Allah swt grant us all sincerity, guide us to the straight path, make us true followers of the Prophet and gather us with him in the highest station in Jannah, Ameen!