Dunia Shuaib

Don’t remind others of your favors upon them.
“O you who have believed, do not invalidate your charities with reminders or injury as does one who spends his wealth [only] to be seen by the people and does not believe in Allah and the Last Day. His example is like that of a [large] smooth stone upon which is dust and is hit by a downpour that leaves it bare. They are unable [to keep] anything of what they have earned. And Allah does not guide the disbelieving people.” [2:264]

When speaking be gentle, use kind words and be mindful of your tone.
“And speak to him with gentle speech (in a soft tone)…” [20:44]
This is what Allah swt said to Musa (as) as he was going to speak to, Firoun, the biggest tyrant of all time.

Do not ridicule, insult or call names.
“O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers.” [49:11]

Show gratitude and appreciation to Allah swt and to your loved ones.
“…If you are grateful, I will surely give you more and more…” [14:7]

Fulfill your promises.
“O you who believe! Fulfill your promises…” [5:1]

Control your emotions (especially anger), forgive and do good. 
“…Those who control/restrain (their) anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good.” [3:134]

Nothing is ever wasted.
“So whoever does an atom’s weight of good will see it, And whoever does an atom’s weight of evil will see it.” [99:7-8]

Communication is key in any relationship. Choose the best words (loving, encouraging, compassionate).
“And tell My servants to say that which is best. Indeed, Satan induces [dissension] among them. Indeed Satan is ever, to mankind, a clear enemy.” [17:53]

Negative assumptions, spying and backbiting are toxic. These actions don’t only destroy your relationships but could also potentially destroy your akhira.
“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12]

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